No one said that divorce was easy. In fact, it is an awful feeling to realize that your marriage no longer works. Whether or not you and your spouse decide on splitting mutually or contentiously, there are certain things that make the divorce process miserable. At The Harris Law Firm, we understand you already have a lot on your mind during a dissolution of marriage. That is why we list five things that cause the divorce process to be more stressful and miserable than it needs to be. Hopefully, it will help you avoid adding more stress to your plate.
1. YOU DON’T OPEN UP ABOUT YOUR EMOTIONS
Whether you seek professional help through a therapist or just talk to a friend, it is important to discuss your emotions and what you are going through. Divorce can produce feelings of guilt, anxiety, regret, and sadness. If not dealt with appropriately, these emotions can take a negative toll on your physical and mental wellbeing. Be sure to express what you are thinking with someone you trust, so you don’t hold everything in.
2. YOU HIRE THE CHEAPEST ATTORNEY
You may have heard that you get what you pay for. While you should not hire an attorney just because they are expensive, it is also not a good idea to go with one that you will save the most money on. That is because they may end up costing you in the future. Find a divorce lawyer who has experience, especially in cases similar to yours. This may mean you have to spend a little more, but it will ultimately help you protect your best interests.
3. YOU EMPLOY AN ATTORNEY WHO IS NOT THE RIGHT FIT
You need to make sure that you and your attorney are on the same page. Maybe you want to keep the divorce as amicable as possible. It will not help your case or your blood pressure if you lawyer is aggressive and ready to “low-ball” the opposition. However, in some other cases, you may need to be firm with your ex. In that case, you need someone who does not back down. Finding the right attorney for your case can help reduce stress and ensure your expectations are fulfilled.
4. YOU DO NOT STAND UP FOR YOUR RIGHTS
Were you wronged in your divorce? Did your ex have an affair or is trying to cheat you out of money? If so, it is important that you stand up for your rights. Not doing so not only causes you harm, but it can also allow bad behavior from your ex. That is why you should be willing to demand justice, not just sit by and passively accept divorce.
5. USE YOUR KIDS AS PAWNS
One of the most stressful aspects of a divorce is making sure that your children are okay. However, if a parent decides to use their children as pawns to get what they want out of the split, it will not only cause strife between you and them but also hurt the kids. That is why parents should not bring their children into the middle of their problems.
At The Harris Law Firm, we want you to have a seamless divorce without added pressure or stress. We understand that you have enough on your mind. We hope that by avoiding these common pitfalls, you can obtain a dissolution of marriage without stress. If you need an attorney who has experience and extensive knowledge, contact our Colorado divorce attorneys today. We will evaluate your case and come up with the best strategy to prioritize your needs. Call today for a consultation!