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	Balancing our Relationships Last weekend my husband and I spent the afternoon playing golf together. Afterwards, we came home and lounged around together. There were no hole in one’s; no spectacular shots to write down in the record books, just a pleasant afternoon spent together. I felt closer. He felt it too. The intimacy rating scale between the two of us escalated 3 points. The magic was that we took the time out of our busy schedules and we did something together that we both enjoyed. When was the last time that you and your partner just spent a moment together? Recently, a client who is a cancer survivor told me a story about her husband working in the yard to help her start the spring garden. She sat on the porch near him while he shoveled the dirt with his hands to weed the turf. They chatted about something but that something she did not recall. What she did remember that when he was finished they went inside together and she felt amorous towards him. A lustful feeling came over her that she hasn’t had in a very long time. They capitalized on the moment. Our city is filled with parks and lakes and creeks to walk side by side with your partner. It is difficult to explain what transforms from a simple walk and perhaps a simple talk while enjoying the outdoors. Not only is it good for the intimacy between two people; the exercise is good for you. Also, it has been proven to reduce stress and we haven’t even started to talk about it raising your endorphins! If you don’t have a partner and this sounds compelling to you then put this paper in your pocket, get those walking shoes on and get going. May I suggest that when you go for a walk alone but wish that you were sharing the experience that you stop to take in all that is around you? And I mean stop. Sit on a park bench or on the green grass to soak up the sun. Often clients tell me that they would like to meet someone but that it doesn’t happen. I ask them where they go and what they do such that they might meet someone they might find attractive. When they tell me that they go to the gym but that hasn’t worked, My response, “How many people do you know that start a conversation with someone that is huffing and puffing and has ear- phones plugged into their ears”? I challenge you to open up your opportunities. Give someone a chance. Have something with you like today’s paper or your favorite coffee so that another person can have a topic at hand to open the conversation such as, “Say, how about those Rockies”. My suggestion – Ask your partner to go for a walk with you before they tell you to go take a hike. Pamela Smith, M.S. LMFT, DAACS Email at: PamelaSmithLMFT@gmail.com Web: PamelaSmithLMFT.com 222 Milwaukee #103 Denver, CO 80206 303-377-2030 Go to Archive Articles